This is trying to conceive: real life experiences from the TTC community.’ – Sheila Lamb

To sum up this book in one word – empathy.

“Now, that I’m telling you I’m dealing with infertility, please don’t try and fix it for me. You can’t. Trust me. Please, don’t say ‘I read an article about…’ Or ‘My neighbour’s sister-in-law’s best friend tried for 10 years and then went on holiday’, because that makes me feel worse. Please, don’t pity me or look at me with sad eyes.”

Excerpt from ‘This is trying to conceive.’

Lack of empathy from others goes hand-in-hand with the experience of infertility.

Those that have been trying to conceive (TTC) for some time have heard it all before. If they haven’t, they’d better be prepared! Lack of empathy from others goes hand-in-hand with the experience of infertility.

So, this is a coping book. It helps cope with the lack of empathy that you encounter when TTC and all that that entails. But that’s not all. It’s also a practical book that offers advice on many other aspects of infertility. It covers the male experience and how to maintain healthy relationships with your partner through all the emotional trials.

This book understands you far better than your well-meaning friends and relatives!

This is trying to conceive’ is stitched together like a quilt. Each chapter is its own little patch of texture and colour. You don’t need to prep yourself to read it or strain to remember exactly what you read the last time. There is no plot as such. Just turn to a chapter that appeals to your mood and give yourself a little me time. You’ll usually find that the book understands you far better than your well-meaning friends and relatives!

Although the book is a something of a comfort quilt, it is not lightweight or trite. It deals with very serious topics delivered by heavy hitters, as a glance at the contributor list will assure you. All the contributor’s biographies, websites and contact details are listed if you want to follow up.

It covers every aspect from breaking taboos to saving your marriage.

Topics themselves include everything from the nature of grief to real life experiences. It covers every aspect from breaking taboos to saving your marriage. There is humour, sometimes of the rueful kind. For instance, one chapter is entitled ‘Seven infertility helpers from Hell.’ This guides you on how to deal with well-known tormentors, such as the The God Rep, The Fixer and The Comparer.

If you are TTC and you need a comfort quill that will understand you better than friends and relatives, then read ‘This is trying to conceive’. It’s also worth sharing with close friends and relatives. It provides helpful insights into the emotional lives of those who are TTC.

‘This is trying to conceive’ is available from MSFBooks.com and here.